Is this just a crutch?

It's tempting to get into the next one when you've been out of a relationship.

I mean, at the end of the day it's a reality that each of us has an innate desire to feel connection and to feel like we're understood. We cannot blame ourselves for feeling the need to find comfort in another partner, friend, or other thing.

This morning I'm reminded that the question we need to ask ourselves before just going through life blindly, taking and doing anything to fill this desire is: what would I like this to fill?

So, in the case of seeking a partner, the question becomes: what is it that I'm hoping to fill inside of me when I find another partner?

For me, it was comfort.

There are parts of me that believe a partner can help me feel comfort; help soothe the uncomfortable parts that I'm grappling with today.

I know this isn't true though. I know that in some respects, a partner may make me feel less comforted. But this doesn't prevent me from having the desire.

What we are seeking, we can only find in God. He is the ultimate comforter at the end of the day.

And maybe the question becomes, is this not just a crutch that only God can satisfy?